Every parent wants to see their children succeed in life, and helping them find the right college and pay for it is one of the first big steps we can help them take.
However, successfully planning for college requires a lot of work, especially for parents. As a parent, unless you’re leaving it up to your children to figure out how to pay for college on their own, you’re primarily responsible for the financial side of things. And you may also need to provide guidance and be part of the process in other areas.
But your student also has responsibilities in college planning, including a lot of research, preparation, decision-making, and doing the hard part of meeting college requirements and presenting themselves as a good candidate for admissions.
This is why it’s important to understand parent vs. student responsibilities as you start to develop your college plan or when you need to regularly assess where you are in the process and what you need to do.
There are areas where parents are primarily responsible, where the student is primarily responsible, and where parents and students will need to work together.
I explore all of these activities in greater detail in my College Planning Jumpstart video course. But to help illustrate the general concept, I’ve put together the following Venn diagram, to show which college planning areas and tasks are primarily for parents vs. students, and where responsibilities will usually overlap.
Take a look at the diagram to get a sense of how things work, and then we’ll walk through each topic area and the key responsibilities you’ll need to keep in mind.
Let’s start with parent responsibilities. Since parents are pretty much in charge of the financial side of college, a big chunk of what they’ll do during college planning is financially related.
It’s not that students can’t be involved or participate in the college financial process. But finances may be a bit over their heads at this stage. They may not understand the terms, they may not be able to relate to the large sums of money involved, and unless they already have significant financial responsibilities, it might be unfamiliar territory for them.
Here are the core financial areas where parents need to take the lead and what you’ll need to do:
- Fill out the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA)
- Find out if your student and family will qualify for need-based financial aid
- Find out if your student will qualify for merit-based financial aid
Net College Pricing
- Evaluate student loans and figure out how to avoid them or borrow inexpensively
- Understand the 6 ways to pay for college and which ones you’ll use
- Determine what your family can afford and how college will impact your finances
Saving and Investing
- Calculate how much you have in college savings and how much you’ll still need to save
- Find out how much additional savings you can achieve by reducing family expenses
- Explore and choose good saving and investing strategies to help you pay for college
In college planning, most students are primarily responsible for choosing their major and career or choosing to remain undecided, applying for admissions, and taking care of their academics and other qualifications as a prospective college student.
It’s their life, so they should be working on these things. But, as parents, you may need to supervise these efforts and provide some guidance or make sure they work with counselors and get things done on time.
However, you shouldn’t do it for them. In the end, it’s their responsibility, and here’s what they’ll need to do:
Choosing a Major/Career
- Research potential jobs and careers that interest them
- Research and choose a potential college major
- Understand the implications and options for remaining undecided
- Complete admissions applications such as the common app
- Write college admissions essays and conduct interviews with schools
- Make a prompt enrollment decision if you applied for early admission consideration
- Ensure you have a good enough GPA to get into your preferred schools
- Choose the right college-prep and other high school courses to boost your qualifications
- Prepare for and take college entrance exams (or decide to go test-optional)
There are also key areas where parents and students may share responsibilities and need to work together more closely. Here are the categories where this may need to happen and what parents and students will need to do together:
- Research the cost of attendance and net cost of college at specific schools
- Find schools that are a good fit for the student’s goals and the family’s budget
- Find schools that are a good fit and offer the best financial aid opportunities
- Schedule and make campus visits to help narrow down your list of schools
- Make virtual campus visits to gather information when in-person visits aren’t possible
- Decide to take the ACT and/or SAT or go test-optional
- Explore test prep options including courses, practice exams and tutors
- Review available test dates and register/plan accordingly
- Research potential institutional scholarships at colleges you’re considering
- Research private scholarships based on student merit, characteristics, or other factors
- Decide whether scholarships are worth pursuing, create a plan, and do the work
Strategies for College Planning Success
As you can see from the diagram and descriptions above, there is a lot of work to do with college planning. It can seem daunting, but, like with any other major project, you can make things a lot easier with a few simple strategies:
- Learn what you need to do
- Get organized and plan ahead
- Divide the work into smaller tasks
- Assign and share responsibilities
- Set up a schedule and keep to it
- Track and manage your progress
As part of your family’s overall college planning, hold family meetings to discuss each area, what you’re going to do, and how you’re going to do it.
It might be two parents discussing how you’re going to handle college for your kids and make sure you’re on the same page. Additional discussions might include your student as you start deciding what schools they might consider, what’s affordable for the family and a good fit for your student, where to visit, how to qualify for admission, and how to go about applying.
Building a Team
To help you with developing and executing your plan, you’ll want to build a team. Typically this centers on one or both parents with your student at the core.
You might expand your team by adding key resources such as a guidance counselor or career counselor at your high school, or a college planning expert in a specific area.
For example, you can potentially hire a college admissions specialist to help you build a list of schools that are a good fit for your student and family, and help you with the application process. You can hire an essay coach to help your student with writing a good admissions essay.
You can also hire a test prep company or instructor to help you with SAT or ACT test preparation and provide one-on-one, online, or group lessons, classes and tutoring.
But one of the most important members you can add to your team is a college financial planner.
Since the financial side is such a big and crucial part of the college process, many parents find it helpful to work with a college financial expert who can help them figure out how to pay for college, create a complete plan for their family, and potentially save thousands of dollars in the process.
Even if you have an existing financial planner, it’s a good idea to hire a college financial specialist. It means you’ll be working with someone who truly knows the ins-and-outs and do’s and don’ts of financial aid, saving and investing for college, finding the right school, and making college as affordable as possible.
As a Certified Financial Planner® and college funding specialist, I’ve helped hundreds of families in this capacity. My clients find that it’s a great way to divide up some of the college planning workload and get help from an expert who saves them time, money and stress.
To learn more about college funding specialists, what they do, and how they can help families like yours, check out my article on Why Families Hire College Financial Planners. Or visit the Work with Brad page at my college financial advising website to learn more about my services and book an online discovery meeting to explore your options.
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